You know, every once in a while your hero (that would be me) stumbles upon something that strikes the reader’s nerves. Much like the time I wrote about my evil plan to raise my kids, and how they turned out to be good young men (even if they needed a haircut). Last week I let a reader (Natalie) write what she thought of this trip on Don’t Rush Me Lane.
Hold on to your righteous indignation, as there are more reader comments to come.
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In reference to “My evil plan is examined by Natalie”.
What a breath of fresh air to read Natalie H’s response to Don’s column. I’d much rather read that person’s thoughts than Don’s repetitive, archaic rants. Kudos to her for responding – as a parent of three, I agree that we have to let our kids be themselves and it’s what’s on the inside that matters. The rest is white noise. Natalie H. wrote: âWhy do you care? You know the characters and personalities of your sons. If you feel like you raised them to be nice people, why else is it important? ” Well done.
Don’s response was anything but kind, he seems unable to take a step back and try to understand that his own prejudices and prejudices are hurtful and mean, and cannot even recognize what she has pointed out, making a weak reference. to the Lord of the Flies. PLEASE. I repeat, PLEASE, can we please get a column for Natalie and remove Don’s weekly installment? An avid reader, Lillian S., Lake Orion.
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Don, thank you for not giving in to Natalie’s criticisms. Oh, maybe that’s too hard, I meant Natalie’s point of view.
Your response to her was kind and probably nicer than some / many of your sons have received from you. Either way, your sons probably already thought that you were stupid and / or insensitive / ignorant / ignorant in many areas until you were around 25, but they still came to you to solve some problems. problems that only a father can handle.
They also probably respect your adherence to a line or principle, and your willingness to give your opinion, and your refusal to be a snowflake or just a flake. I suspect that they have confided in you regularly, but have also learned to deal with some things independently. You’ve undoubtedly even offered advice and opinions when not asked, based on observations they never suspected.
A wise man with his own âfirm opinionsâ once responded to my criticism of his approach with, âI am your father, not your friend, and one day you will be smart enough to make a difference. I think he even told me that, until then, shut my mouth and pretend I have some common sense. I understood him at the age of 25, I still miss him every day. Michael F., Clarkston.
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Thanks, Lillian and Michael for reading and taking care to write! For the record, my boys are both in their twenties, but have not yet reached the age of 25. Readers online were able to see a photo of what my sons wrote to me on last Father’s Day. Since you weren’t allowed that luxury, here’s what they wrote:
âThank you for being our father. It means a lot to us how patient, wise and funny you are. A lot of the fathers I’ve seen rely too much on “hard love” and “masculinity,” but you let us be our own men. Thank you for loving us and watching over us. Sean.
To which Shamus added: “I would like to say thank you too, but Sean wrote to me. Know that I feel the same.
I think the only criticism or praise for my parenting style really has to come from these two. The proof is in the puddin.
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Before my evil plan, I asked readers (in a roundabout way) if they picked up or answered their cell phones in the bathroom. And . . .
Hi Don, answer it? Sure; it may be an emergency! More often “NOT”, fortunately, but just in case. Few people care to talk to me these days, since I have. Go figure it out. Sincerely, Haley.
Don, Before I retired several years ago, I was talking to a coworker and heard his flush. I immediately ended the call (I was going to say âhung upâ but it doesn’t match) and a few minutes later he called back and said âwe have been cutâ. I said, âNo John, we weren’t. You flushed the toilet and I was presented with a mental image that will take the rest of the day to flush out.
So no! DO NOT ANSWER YOUR PHONE IN THE BATHROOM! SLS
Don, my cell phone never rings because I don’t give my number to ANYBODY. I have a landline phone and everyone I know has that number, but my cell phone is for MY use only.
PS I love your writing. Thank you. Dolores
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